WHEN YOUR JOB ISN'T FULFILLING ANYMORE (or never was) (6 min read)

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It’s a topic that comes up REALLY frequently in coaching sessions with clients. In fact, it’s becoming one of the main topics I’ve been coaching people on. And it’s near and dear to my heart.

Feeling unfulfilled was also the major catalyst for me leaving my kush 6-figure-salary sales job to open the most obscure business imaginable.

You’re probably already thinking: ‘This is me! I don’t feel fulfilled in my job!” - and you’re not alone.

A recent study shows that only 51% of people are actually satisfied with their job. For analysts, this is actually an improvement in the statistics, with the last 8 years showing a increase in job satisfaction peaking at 51%

It begs the question, why do are we not fulfilled in our J-O-Bs?

FOMO? Too woke? Bored? Want deeper meaning? Uncool people?

Regardless of why you’re not fulfilled let alone satisfied in your job - the reality is… now is the time to take a look at it - because it’s not going to improve on it’s own.

In fact, it’s going to be harder and harder to ameliorate the situation.

Why?

Because your lifestyle is going perpetuate you staying put. You’re ability to think outside your lifestyle is going to be increasingly challenging as you buy more cool shit to show people you’re successful. Ok, that’s a little harsh, but cars, homes, kids, and generally being over-leveraged goes hand in hand with your professional advancement.

Think of it this way. You work your ass off in a job that’s just, ok - not fulfilling, but bearable. You don’t like the job, but you’re a good person and you do enough to continue to grow. And grow you do. And while you’re growing in your career, you buy stuff that rewards you for that hard work. Status increases and so do the ties that bind. Then you wake up at 40 thinking…wtf have I been doing for 15 years?

Sound familiar?

SO WHAT TO DO?

Here are some ideas:

• Find redeeming hobbies

• Quit your job and find one that is more fulfilling. Not perfect, but better.

• Re-assess your values. If you don’t want to be identified with your job, identify with your church, team, hobby

• Start a meditation practice (begin to think more clearly so you can know yourself and your needs)

• Set greater goals for yourself (goals centered around everything not associated with your job)

• Volunteer. Re-direct your attention to those in greater need. Re-orient your vision toward service

• Practice GRATITUDE.

Here’s the tricky part. If you’re unfulfilled in your job - chances are, you’ll be able to re-direct your attention enough to continue enduring it. Ya know? If you really want to distract yourself from the fact that you spend 40-hours a week (1/3 of your life) doing something that isn’t fulfilling…you may be successful. But, keep in mind, if you are successful, you may be doing yourself a major disservice.

You’re worthy of living the type of life that you desire.

The next step is to begin deciding what type of life you want.

THAT IS THE REAL WORK. That is the work of self-discovery on the path of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.

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So many of us are still stuck in the first two or three base levels. We have followed cultural pressures to an end that isn’t working. We’ve taken care of food, water warmth and rest - we have a place to stay, food to eat. Maybe we’ve advanced to place where we feel safe and secure. Some income, maybe some savings - baseline security.

If at this point in reading, you’re starting to get defensive - ask yourself why?

Many more of us who have managed the first two steps in the pyramid are striving for the third step in the hierarchy. We’re solid, and organized, but lack enriching relationships or a partner to love and be loved by. So, we fill our free time seeking relationships that will give us greater meaning and depth, and we stay there.

Ask yourself how long you’ve been looking for relationships that are fulfilling? Years probably. And we hang out there sometimes for the rest of our lives - never really developing past it because of _________. We’re sorta organized, but not growing any more. Stuck in a job that we hate.

This is where the excuses come in: The economy. Trouble in family life. Not enough time in the day. Been sick. Too scary. Not qualifies. It’s not that bad.

And this is where I end.

If you’re ready to move forward and create the life you want - book me for a free 15-min intro coaching call and we can talk about it.

I’ve helped many people out of this pickle. I can help you too.