What's your strength?

What's your strength?


You may know that IQ stands for Intelligence Quotient. You definitely know that IQ is a representation of your cognitive abilities. 

But what is EQ?

EQ is Emotional Quotient and it's defined as: the capability of individuals to recognize their own, and other people's emotions, to discriminate between different feelings and label them appropriately, and to use emotional information to guide thinking and behavior. 

IMO the latter part of the definition is far more important than the former. Defining your own emotions and discriminating between the emotions of another are far less important than using emotional information to guide thinking and behavior. 

Lets dig deeper. 

When you have a high EQ, you forge meaningful relationships more easily, engage in thoughtful conversations and have a better understanding about what makes people tic. This has as much, or arguably more importance than a high IQ. (I'm not a therapist or a psychologist, but data supports this) High IQ tend to have lower EQ. Maybe it helps you to think of it as left-brained vs right brained. Higher IQ people experience more depression and often have feelings of alienation that folks with higher EQ do not. 

We can all improve the genetic hand we're dealt, of course. But once you start to think more about the importance of improving your EQ you'll see that people's emotions and your own often dictate situations. When you improve your EQ, you'll become better at getting what you want. You'll see the personal impact of your behaviors and the behaviors of others. And, since often people can't help how they react to situations (because their emotions are innate and sometimes uncontrollable) taking that into account will make you a better communicator, partner and person. 

So, how can you improve your EQ? 

Pay attention to your emotions for starters. Here's an article from Psychology Today about 6 steps to improve your EQ. 

You can do things to improve your IQ, but improving your EQ may be a key to improving your life and becoming the person you want to be.